tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post6319385368394311803..comments2023-10-26T10:52:15.829+02:00Comments on The Geeky Bookworm: A winner and an International Survey!SusiSunshinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10369771671719640675noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-39255881195658197012010-09-23T18:36:34.949+02:002010-09-23T18:36:34.949+02:00@Ina Yep to all you said hon. 3 years are perfect....@Ina Yep to all you said hon. 3 years are perfect. BF agrees too. LOLSusiSunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10369771671719640675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-43455329380440342652010-09-21T20:58:09.743+02:002010-09-21T20:58:09.743+02:00@stella: I totally agree with you - it isn't w...@stella: I totally agree with you - it isn't weird to me too... difference? <br /><br />and Susi, I can understand you - I like older men too, the 'boys' my age are no 'men' for me and are to childish -.- but about 3 years older and it's perfect *g*Inahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12096027880546281359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-39261391292874080112010-09-20T17:20:22.247+02:002010-09-20T17:20:22.247+02:00@Stella Agree 100%. I think those relationships do...@Stella Agree 100%. I think those relationships don't work out that often. Just a coincidence that me and BF are together that long. It's really not the rule. I know we are the only ones that are still together.SusiSunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10369771671719640675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-87664895760707193612010-09-20T17:13:15.308+02:002010-09-20T17:13:15.308+02:00@Colette LOL...yeah see I think it's weird tha...@Colette LOL...yeah see I think it's weird that you think it's weird. It seems to really depend on how your raised and how your society sees this. <br /><br />@Patti The same motive a 35 year old guy has when he wants the 24 year old, I think. It's more that today the women are looking for an older man. I know I never even noticed the guys my age no matter how nice they were. And no surprise with your boy. LOLSusiSunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10369771671719640675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-16445942454502170422010-09-20T17:09:56.844+02:002010-09-20T17:09:56.844+02:00I agree with you Susi, I think maybe we see this d...I agree with you Susi, I think maybe we see this differently because of our European mentality. According to the laws in Hungary teenagers of 16 years old are considered as adults in matters of (sexual) relationships, so that differs from the US legal situation.<br /><br />I don't think a 24 year old is too old for a 17 year old, especially since girls mature earlier. Of course these 7 years could also be more pronounced at this age then at let's say 30-37. And of course in real life a guy who is 24 could/would have different expectations of a relationship than a 17 year old one. But in fiction I have absolutely no problem with this, I agree with Caro, if the age gap was more: e.g. 17 and 27 I'd find that too much.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08595369872159009395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-80422832897149366502010-09-20T15:25:11.286+02:002010-09-20T15:25:11.286+02:00LOL, I agree with Colette - I'm okay with it i...LOL, I agree with Colette - I'm okay with it in historicals. I'm not a fan of May/December romance anyway, but even if it was legal, I'd wonder at the motives of a 24yo guy dating a 17yo girl.<br /><br />Oh - I asked my son if he thought he's ready to date a 24yo woman and he didn't even hesitate "yes!" hahaha!Patti (@TheLoveJunkee)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01732605328006594727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-35098738422785457552010-09-20T01:24:24.084+02:002010-09-20T01:24:24.084+02:00@Susi-It's funny, because in historical romanc...@Susi-It's funny, because in historical romances, I'm totally fine with the age differences, b/c it's how was at the time..but now? I just think it's weird when an older guy likes a younger girl..but this is something I'll have to think about. :)A Buckeye Girl Readshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08952103323793072580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-56402344066794912342010-09-20T00:00:40.377+02:002010-09-20T00:00:40.377+02:00@Colette So it'S more cuz of the law for you o...@Colette So it'S more cuz of the law for you or would you feel the same if it were legal like for example in Germany to do this with 16?SusiSunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10369771671719640675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-34204928546649409192010-09-19T23:54:51.612+02:002010-09-19T23:54:51.612+02:00@Susi-I think it's because in the states, if a...@Susi-I think it's because in the states, if a guy who is older then 18 has a fling with someone under 18 then he can go to jail-even if it's ok with the girl. That's why I'm always squeamish about those kinds of age differences. (Even in real life.)A Buckeye Girl Readshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08952103323793072580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-51221204262922431522010-09-19T22:52:17.792+02:002010-09-19T22:52:17.792+02:00@Colette As it seems it really is a social thing. ...@Colette As it seems it really is a social thing. For me it's weird that you all think it'S too young. Makes me look like a perv. ;)SusiSunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10369771671719640675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-11462911472855171992010-09-19T22:44:40.584+02:002010-09-19T22:44:40.584+02:00I'm more old fashioned then I thought. It both...I'm more old fashioned then I thought. It bothers me that when they first met there was such a big age difference.A Buckeye Girl Readshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08952103323793072580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-75900968446058249802010-09-19T19:38:22.584+02:002010-09-19T19:38:22.584+02:00@Patti Yep it was not like anything happened. I...@Patti Yep it was not like anything happened. I'm not sure how I would think about my own children. You probably have a point there. =)SusiSunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10369771671719640675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-55393674684634413192010-09-19T18:42:33.789+02:002010-09-19T18:42:33.789+02:00I think I'm a prude too. 6-7 years is a huge ...I think I'm a prude too. 6-7 years is a huge difference at that age; not such a big deal if they were both 10 years older but there's a lot of growing/maturing going on at that age.<br /><br />I have a 17 year old son who is so not ready to date a 24 year old, and I can say when my daughters are 17 I definitely do not want them dating a 24 year old.<br /><br />That being said - it sounds like in this book it was pretty chaste and I don't think it would bother me.Patti (@TheLoveJunkee)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01732605328006594727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-58840998455373152362010-09-19T18:37:52.974+02:002010-09-19T18:37:52.974+02:00@eddie Yeah same here. Doesn't work out well o...@eddie Yeah same here. Doesn't work out well oten. <br /><br />@Gaby Yep again I agree. I think it highly depends on the person and perhaps also on the readers personal experience.SusiSunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10369771671719640675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-33268093316641686092010-09-19T18:29:59.988+02:002010-09-19T18:29:59.988+02:00I don't think it's weird. He is just a cou...I don't think it's weird. He is just a couple of years older.<br /><br />But I guess everyone can have a different opinion. For example, I was very mature at 17, so I wouldn't have surprised if I was having a relationship with a 24. But that's not the case always.<br /><br />People get uncomfortable when the heroine is under 18...but in this case I don't think it's creepy.Gaby Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06756306198200545251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-88272547441597718102010-09-19T18:16:24.774+02:002010-09-19T18:16:24.774+02:00It was common where I grew up in Aus as well, but ...It was common where I grew up in Aus as well, but often didn't play out too well.eddiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05309751572588351790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-19725265557593628012010-09-19T17:50:55.476+02:002010-09-19T17:50:55.476+02:00@Lea Yes I completely agree.
@eddie Yep true abou...@Lea Yes I completely agree.<br /><br />@eddie Yep true about those being not so much more mature. It really seems to be a society thing because here it's rather common. I always had the young guy with only 3 years older. ;)<br /><br />@Blodeuedd Yes I agree. A girl in my class had a 30 year old BF at 13 or 14. That was totally wrong and everyone was grossed out just not she and her parents (which actually was the weirdest thing for the rest of us).SusiSunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10369771671719640675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-64486276007107704892010-09-19T17:42:03.295+02:002010-09-19T17:42:03.295+02:00I didn't think it was anything weird with that...I didn't think it was anything weird with that age difference. What was weird was when a girl who was 13, a classmate had a bf who was 21...so wrongBlodeueddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03435479623560871881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-29970769508521610742010-09-19T17:29:59.097+02:002010-09-19T17:29:59.097+02:00I could be a bit on the prude side, or it could be...I could be a bit on the prude side, or it could be that I'm getting a bit old. But in RL relationship stakes I'd be a bit concerned on the 24 with 17 yr old. 6 years a big gap at that age IMO. (Though my recollections don't have 24 yr old males being that more mature than 17yr olds. LOL)<br />But within fiction, especially the situation you outlined in the case of this book, no that wouldn't draw a raised brow.eddiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05309751572588351790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-822631926626136722010-09-19T17:14:48.504+02:002010-09-19T17:14:48.504+02:00Congrats to Camille!
Great question and survey Su...Congrats to Camille!<br /><br />Great question and survey Susi. As you indicated I feel it is a maturity issue. I know some folks are uncomfortable when the heroine or hero is under 18, however for me it is purely a number and it depends on the people involved and the story crafted for them. ;)Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11521584458356470972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-48670928408028326742010-09-19T17:03:56.855+02:002010-09-19T17:03:56.855+02:00@Camille Congrats again! You are right about that....@Camille Congrats again! You are right about that. I think it depends on the maturity too. <br /><br />@pattepoilue Yep, I have to say I would say 16 too even tho I wouldn't fit in that group either. *hides*SusiSunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10369771671719640675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-54689197315152421732010-09-19T17:01:46.588+02:002010-09-19T17:01:46.588+02:00Well we talked about that and it's not chockin...Well we talked about that and it's not chocking to me. Many of my friends at 15 had BFs who were more than 20. Sometimes even more.<br /><br />At least here in France, I don't think it would shock anyone. 24 is not that old in comparison. It's legal too. <br />I guess it's a cultural thing. I wouldn't be shocked.<br /><br />I draw the line at 16 years old going out with 29 or more years old. Then it's a bit creepy lolMrsMixxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00365102727421687254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802240673853378005.post-48550546338246010322010-09-19T17:01:10.815+02:002010-09-19T17:01:10.815+02:00woot!!! thank you!!!
And for the survey, I think ...woot!!! thank you!!!<br /><br />And for the survey, I think it depends on the 17 yr old and in this case you said they didn't really do anything but hold hands and a chaste brotherly like kiss so that's fine. Intimacy with a 24 yr old at 17 is something I would frown upon but that's just how I was raised.Camillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14006751754378316256noreply@blogger.com